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A BRIEF GUIDE TO SELF RELAXATION

sun rising meditation

It is easy to relax if you know how

 

Master Coach Dev,

I often feel stressed due to the nature of my work. Lately it has begin to affect my personal life as well. I often feel fatigued, experience mood swings and at times go into a mild depression.

I have been advised to see a psychiatrist, take up meditation or learn self-hypnosis.  I don’t have the time to learn all these nor do I feel comfortable with these new options recommended to me.

Is there an easier option that I can practice by myself without the involvement of an outside party and I can proceed at my own rate?

Please help me as I am growing concerned about my state of mind.

Thank you Master Coach Dev.

Regards,

Lyn, KL


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Total Relaxation


Hi Lyn,

I hope this simple and private  Self Relaxation process helps?

Hugs

A BRIEF GUIDE TO SELF RELAXATION

This guide to Self Relaxation has a wide variety of therapeutic applications. In particular it is very effective in the alleviation of stress and tension, and in helping with sleeping patterns.

Creating The Right Atmosphere

Find a quiet room where you will not be disturbed, preferably a bedroom with no telephone. Dim the lights or turn them off. You may choose to light a candle, or burn some aromatherapy oils, or play some relaxation music quietly in the background. Use anything which helps you to create a relaxing atmosphere. Then make yourself as comfortable as possible, either in a chair with a head rest or by laying down on a couch or bed.

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Don't try to relax, just relax

Preparing Yourself

Tell yourself silently or out loud that you are going to do self relaxation. Then tell yourself silently or out loud how long you want to remain in this state. Fifteen to twenty minutes is fine to begin with however, after a few weeks practice you may decide to make it last longer.

The Breathing Technique

Close your eyes and begin to breathe very slowly and deeply, in through your nose and out through your mouth. At the top of your breath hold it for three seconds, then count to five on every out breath. As you breathe out imagine you are breathing away any nervous tension left in your body.

Also make sure you breathe diaphragmatically, so as you breathe in your stomach goes out, and as you breathe out your stomach goes in. You can also say the word Relax on every out breath if you wish. Continue this breathing pattern for 10 or more times, or as long as it takes for you to feel completely relaxed.

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Ultimate Relaxation

Clearing Your Mind

Allow your mind to go completely blank. Don’t worry if you still get any unwanted thoughts in your mind, tell yourself not to fight them as they will soon drift away again. Imagine a large red stop sign every time you get an unwanted thought. As soon as you see the red stop sign imagine the thought disappearing and your mind becoming clear.

Another thought clearing method would be to imagine a large computer screen full of data and by hitting a keypad the screen becomes blank. Imagine you are pressing a key pad and your mind becomes blank. Use whatever method works for you.

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Mental Relaxation

Deepening The Self Relaxation State

By now you will already be in a light relaxated state. A good technique to guide yourself deeper into self relaxation is to silently and mentally count down from 10 to 1, feeling every muscle in your body relax more and more with each descending number. Leave about 5 seconds in between each number or even count each number down on every 2nd or 3rd out breath. To enhance this you can also use visualization techniques. For example, imagine yourself going down 10 steps into a beautiful garden, count down with each step, going deeper with each number. Use whatever feels right for you.


Utilizing The Self Relaxation State

When you reach this stage you can either just relax and drift or better still you can give yourself some positive suggestions or affirmations. The wording of which must have been decided upon before you start. You can also use powerful imagery.

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Physical Relaxation


Wording Your Affirmations Correctly

Work on one goal at a time, usually over a number of sessions. Don’t for example work on quitting smoking and building your confidence in the same session. Although you can use a number of affirmations in one session make sure they all relate to one chosen goal at this time. Then silently and mentally repeat them over and over, slowly and positively using as few words as possible.

Be very direct as though you are giving yourself commands. Sometimes you can create a rhythm with your breathing saying the affirmation on each out breath, almost like a chant or mantra.

When deciding on the suggestions beforehand always state them as if they are a reality and in the present. This is very important as your unconscious mind believes exactly what it is told.

For example:

Do not say……….‘’I want to be confident’’.

Do say……….‘’I am a very confident person’’.

You must make the suggestion completely unambiguous and always

Accentuate The Positive.

For example:

Do not say……….‘’I don’t want to be shy’’.

Do say……….‘’I am always confident and self assured when

in the company other people’.

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Be in the NOW!

The Power Of Imagery

You can also use imagery as well as words when in the self relaxed state. For example, if you are due to go for an interview and you have been feeling nervous, you can visualize yourself going for the interview feeling composed and full of confidence and conducting yourself in a very positive way. You accept there will be a small degree of nerves but you are in control of the level of anxiety you feel, and you use that anxiety to keep you focused and on the ball. Run the images in your mind like a short film using as much detail as possible. See the shape and size of the room, notice the colors of the walls and carpet, feel your clothes against your skin, notice the fresh smell of the room, the softness as you sit in the chair. Make the whole picture bright and clear and use as many of your senses as you can, the more vivid your imagination the better. Most importantly, always see yourself in a completely positive light, expressing yourself clearly and confidently and feeling very calm and composed under any pressure.

You can use this powerful technique to prepare yourself for many things, such as an exam of any kind, a sporting event, public speaking, on business and social occasions, even on a romantic date.

Remember – your unconscious mind cannot differentiate between what is real and what is imagined, so the more you imagine a positive future situation or event the more you compound your inner belief that you are calm, confident and in control in these situations. I liken it to programming a computer with positive information.

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In Alpha State

Bringing yourself back to full consciousness

When you feel its time to wake up from this deep state of self relaxation all you do is slowly and mentally count up from 1 to 10. When you reach the number 10 your eyes will open and you will be wide awake with a feeling of well being all over. However if you practice before going to sleep do not count up from 1 to 10, tell yourself beforehand that it will turn into a natural deep sleep from which you will wake up in the morning feeling positive and refreshed.


We teach this and a lot more at the CREATIVE BREATH MEDITATION session. If you are interested, please get in touch with SELF MASTERY LERANING CENTRE by calling Jaq 016 – 221 6708 or via email to Jaq@selfmastery.com.my


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